Is Coconut Oil Safe for Internal Adult Use?

It is quite common for people today to use coconut oil in the kitchen. It is also quite common for people to use it in the bedroom.

As a rule, you should try to keep a container in your kitchen, separated from the container in your bedrooom. In fact, it is recommended that you keep a large container in your kitchen and a smaller container in your bedroom. Doing this will permit you to use the container in your kitchen to refill the container in your bedroom, with no threat of cross contaminating your food.

That being said, there appears to be some concern with the use of coconut oil for wildly imaginative adult purposes. Certainly other oils have been well documented as being bad for vaginal use and as a personal lubricant.

However, coconut oil is not like these other oils. In fact, coconut oil is quite different in (at least) one big, dramatic way. It is comprised of medium-chain triglycerides (similarly referred to as containing medium-chain fatty acids). Other oils, like olive oil, are comprised of long-chain fatty acids.

In a Psychology Today article published on November 8, 2010, called “As You Like It/the Latest on Sex”, Dr. Paul Joannides, Psy.D explains two things:

  1. Olive oil molecules are too long to be absorbed into the walls of the vagina. As a result, much of the olive oil can stay in the vagina after intercourse, remaining in the rear of the vagina to cause problems.
  2. Coconut oil, on the other hand, is one of the few oils with short-chain molecules. This is why it will absorb into the epithelium of the vagina.

In more general terms, the FDA (U.S. Food and Drug Administration) agrees that coconut oil is safe, as described by the Select Committee on GRAS (Generally Recognized as Safe) and as posted on the FDA’s Website:

  • “None of the available biological information indicates that these substances (Coconut oil, peanut oil, oleic acid, and linoleic acid) are hazardous to man or animals even when consumed at levels… of magnitude greater than could result from their use… “
  • “There is no evidence in the available information on coconut oil, peanut oil, and oleic acid that demonstrates, or suggests reasonable grounds to suspect, a hazard to the public… “

To help ease concern, several Doctor’s also recommend coconut oil for internal use:

  • In October 2011, Dr. Jen Gunter, MD published a blog article titled “Coconut oil: a natural lube” on her website titled “Wielding the Lasso of Truth”. This article stated…

    Many couples need/prefer lube during sex. However, many commercial lubricants can be irritating (or just aren’t quite right). Ingredients that many women find irritating are alcohol (most gel based lubricants) and glycerin and paraben (most water based lubes), never mind the stuff they add for smell and taste.

    A great option for those who find commercial lubes irritating or are troubled by the fact than many of the ingredients remain unpronounceable to everyone but organic chemists is coconut oil. (2)

  • In March 2013, Dr. Sara Celik, leading Naturopathic Doctor and Detox Expert in Canada, published an article online with “Eligible Magazine”. The article was titled “Lube Up With Coconut Oil” and reported…

    “It’s probably the best organic lubricant for enhancing sexual pleasure and protecting your sexy parts from STD’s.”

    At that time, she also reported that…

    “One study showed using a lubricant was associated with a more than threefold greater risk of acquiring a sexually transmitted infection. Avoid creating a breeding ground for yeast and other pathogens by switching from commercial lubricants, which can be toxic to cells and tissues, to all natural coconut oil.”

And, if this happens to be the first time you have heard that commercial lubricants may be bad for you, please consider the following list of ingredients commonly found in them:

  • Parabens – mimic estrogen and have been linked to breast cancer.
  • Petroleum-based – Feared to trap bacteria when used internally, increasing the risk of infection.
  • Glycerin (or words starting with “glycol” in the ingredients) – These ingredients provide a sugary feast for yeast.
  • Alcohols – naturally dry and can be irritating to sensitive skin.

It should also be noted that some commercial lubricants may prevent conception. This is not known to be the case with coconut oil. Whereas, studies show that lubricants like KY, Astroglide and FemGlide affect both sperm quality and mobility by slowing them down and damaging DNA. So if you are trying to conceive, some traditional lubes are not recommended.

As reported by “the Cadida Diet created by Lisa Richards”, if you happen to have candida, you should probably avoid the following foods…

  • Alcohol – also an ingredient in some commercial lubes
  • Citric Acid – the manufactured, additive form of citric acid is derived from yeast. However the natural form, as found in lemons and limes, is OK on the diet.
  • Fruit – because of the high sugar content
  • Grains/Gluten – may strain the immune system
  • Processed Meat – because they often contain high levels of dextrose nitrates, sulfates and sugars.
  • Mushrooms – eating fungi may cause an inflammatory reaction if already suffering from Candida.
  • Sugar – also an ingredient in some commercial lubes
  • Vinegar – sometimes made in a yeast culture, it depletes the stomach of acids and can also cause inflammation in your gut. However, one particular vinegar (unfiltered apple cider vinegar) may actually be helpful in combating a Candida overgrowth.

Mutual Friendship

This is personally my favorite type of friendship. The thing I like about this type of friendship is the fact that both parties are equally affected. Both parties either loose, gain or don’t loose or gain anything (be it positive or negative). Both parties either input something into the friendship or input nothing at all. There are three types of mutual friendships.

a) Positive mutual relationship
b) Negative mutual relationship
c) Passive mutual relationship

POSITIVE MUTUAL FRIENDSHIP:

In this type of friendship, you and your partner have positive things to impact on each other in other to make themselves better than they were before they met. In his type of friendship, quality time is spent between the friends. Quality time in which they discuss about making their future better, encourage themselves, ideas they have on changing the world and any other self developing topic. If you are in this type of friendship, I’ll advice you to hold on to that friend.S/he is a rare gem that needs to be treasured. The sad thing about such friendship is that it is very rare. The good thing about this friendship is that you will know that your friend is a true friend and you can vouch for him o anything. Hold on, you and your friend will change the world.

NEGATIVE MUTUAL FRIENDSHIP:

Well, this is the worst type of friendship. in this friendship, the two friends are parasites on each other. They are detrimental to each other. The funny thing about this relationship is that deep down in their hearts, the two friends know that they are not helping each other but are scared of leaving the friendship. Well, most times they do not know what they are in to that’s why they are scared of leaving the friendship. Let me use an analogy to describe this relationship. There is this substance called sweetene (a fictitious substance-does not really exist). It is a sweet substance but unknown to everyone, it’s a poison. If I call ten people that like sugary stuff to drink it, they would gladly do so but the moment I tell them its poison, they will probably kill me before they die. This is the same as the NMR. It is a slow killing poison. You might be enjoying all the bad things you and your friend do together but it is surely detrimental to your life. Get out of it now!!!!!

PASSIVE MUTUAL FRIENDSHIP:

I call this type of friendship a casual friendship. It is most common between children but for adults that participate in such relationship, it’s a waste of time. In this type of friendship, the two friends contribute nothing to making themselves either better or worse. This is a time wasting friendship. These types of friends just talk about anything. They ‘gist’ their time away. Most people that have mutual friends usually fall under such category (PMR). In fact, most best friends operate in this type of friendship. Unknown to them, they just while away time. The good thing about such friendship is that as the friends mature, they turn this friendship into a positive mutual friendship. Well, my advice for children that are in this friendship is that they should make sure they eventually become positive mutual friends but for adults, I want them to analyze the whole relationship and realize that they have three options; to change it, to leave it or to remain in it. I expect you will know the right thing to do.

Top 10 Friendship Killers – Avoid Them Like The Plague

Do you have “friendships” that are killing you? I mean, do you have the kinds of friends that you come away from feeling like you have to downplay your achievements or talents?

Do you have friends that are overly possessive? Backstabbing? Or, are you one of those kinds of friends? In this article, I reveal the top 10 behaviors that are killing your friendships — and what you can do to be a better friend and have healthier friendships.

Friendship Killer #1 – Jealousy

I don’t know how it works with guys, but women are notoriously catty. Trust me. I grew up with a very jealous and competitive mother who could not stand for me to shine. In fact, she’s going to be 75 years old in June, and she still hates for me to be a confident, self-assured woman because she feels so threatened.

I also grew up with 4 catty sisters whose only goal in life was to tear me (and each other) down. So I know a thing or 2 about jealousy.

How to Spot Jealousy in a Friend

You know your friend is jealous when she behaves passive aggressively by constantly making comments (put downs) about your boyfriend, your clothes, your lifestyle, etc. and you find yourself having to downplay your achievements and talents just so she won’t get mad or start being competitive.

Jealousy destroys relationships because you can never be happy for the other person. And the very essence of friendship is support for one another.

Advice: If you’re the jealous type, ask yourself why you feel so less than. Build your self-esteem by doing esteemable things for yourself and others.

If your friend is the jealous one, have a serious conversation with her. Tell her you want to be supportive, but that you can’t and won’t be in a friendship that’s rife with jealousy.

By the way, I don’t talk to my mother anymore – and I’ll only deal with one of my sisters. Yeah. It was that bad.

Friendship Killer #2 – Selfishness (Narcissism)

With selfish friends, it’s always about them. Everything has to be on their terms. If you don’t go along with their program, they try to make you feel guilty, put you down, etc.

Advice: You may just be dealing with someone who is unaware that they’re selfish. If that’s the case, you need to gently tell your friend how her behavior affects you.

If you’re dealing with a narcissist, you may want to end the friendship, as it will always be one-sided.

Friendship Killer #3 – The Manipulator

The manipulative friend can never be direct. They know your weaknesses, so they hint around when they want you to do something, knowing that you will fall for their manipulation – hook, line and sinker.

Advice: Tell your friend nicely that you would appreciate it if she would be more direct with you.

Friendship Killer #4 – Possessiveness

I had a friend who always put down any other friend I wanted to hang out with because she couldn’t stand for me to be with anyone else. When I wanted to include others in activities, she vehemently opposed.

Advice: Smothering someone –telling them they can’t have other friends — is a sign of fear of abandonment. If it’s you who’s behaving possessively, ask yourself why you’re so terrified of losing your friend. If it’s your friend who is possessive, ask her the same thing – gently of course.

Then seek therapy.

Friendship Killer #5 – The Critic

With the critic, you can never win. Sometimes you can almost win, but inevitably the critic will find something wrong with you or what you did, what you’re wearing, etc.

Being around someone who is overly critical is devastating to your psyche and your self-worth.

Advice: Let go of the friendship. People who are overly critical will always raise the bar just out of your reach. It’s a no-win situation. Cut your losses.

Friendship Killer #6 – The Exploder

The exploder always keeps you off balance. It’s their way of controlling you. Being friends with an exploder is like walking through a minefield. You never know what’s going to set them off. Walking on eggshells in a relationship is not healthy and inhibits the growth of both parties.

Advice: Tell your friend to seek anger management, or you’re gone.

Friendship Killer #7 – Covetedness

Everyone gets a twinge of jealousy sometimes. But when it’s a constant in your friendship — that’s bad. Coveting goes hand in hand with jealousy. But it’s a closer cousin to envy.

Your envious friend always wants what you have. The mentality is “there’s not enough to go around, so I want what’s yours.”

Advice: Tell your friend you sense her envy and that it’s uncomfortable. Tell her if she acts on her covetedness, you will associate with her less.

Friendship Killer #8 – Disloyalty

God I hate disloyal people. Disloyal friends are the backstabbers. Gossips. They’re the ones you share a confidence with and then you hear about it on the 6:00 O’clock news. They’re the ones who laugh at you when you fall down – instead of helping you up.

Here’s the deal. I don’t think people should be loyal to a fault. But you should be loyal until your friend no longer deserves your loyalty.

Advice: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Friendship Killer # 9 – Liars

Liars annoy the heck out of me. You can’t trust them. Ever. And you can’t have a friendship without trust.

Advice: Confront your friend about their lies. Tell them that you cannot trust them if they’re lying to you all the time and that trust is an important, and necessary part of the friendship.

Friendship Killer #10 – Being Too “Busy”

Relationships are not one sided. Everyone is busy. But friendships take time and effort. You’ve got to decide whether you really want the friendship because it takes an investment.

So if your friend is always saying she’s “busy”, it just means she doesn’t want to be friends anymore.

Advice: I’d see how often she tells me she’s too busy to hang out before I pull the plug on the friendship.

Conclusion

Friendships are an important part of life. So you want to make sure you’re not getting drained by the very people who are supposed to be uplifting to you. This advice goes for any type of relationship.

So, start paying close attention to your circle of friends and see if any of them fit into one or more of the “friendship killer” categories. Then do what you need to do to take care of yourself.

An Ode To Friendship!

What is friendship? Well, friendship is too vast a concept or a relationship for a clear-cut definition. In fact, it always remains better-off undefined, and even unfathomable. For practical purposes though, friendships are based on mutual likes, mutual respect, mutual love and a whole limitless world of mutuality. Some friends are made instantly, on the first exchange of mutual likes or in line with that saying ‘love at first sight’ being replaced with ‘friendship at first sight’, while some others take time to bloom into a perfect relationship. It is not necessary to have everything in common to be friends: friends can have diametrically opposite interests or even ideologies or passions or professions and yet be the best of friends. Mind you, like marriages friends are not made in heaven, they are technically ‘made in planet earth’ only.

Although friendships mostly develop and bloom amid school/college/university classmates, children in a neighborhood, friends’ friends, peers and office colleagues it can happen anytime with anyone at any stage of life. It is also totally free of the age factor, a 15-year-old can be the best of pals with a 60 or more-year-old. It is also free of all language, ethnicity, region, religion or culture barriers. Contrary to patriarchal beliefs it is also free of the gender factor, a boy can have an equally limitless friendship with a girl and vice versa. Therefore, if a true friendship is the basis between boys and girls then the terms of ‘girlfriends’ or ‘boyfriends’ are misnomers.

Again, contrary to the general belief that members of the family cannot be friends, friendship can bloom even between grandchildren and grandparents; children and parents; between siblings and in-laws; and with anyone, everyone. Friendship can in fact add a refreshing dimension to such relationships. Therefore, people need not hesitate to send friend requests to their family and kin too on the social media. With the world becoming a closed and small place digitally there can also be friends irrespective of the huge geographical distances, the instant communication facility being the bonding factor. It’s basically the bond that drives the friendship vehicle seamlessly around, both in reality and in virtual reality. However, a mere ‘friend’ on the social media does not necessarily signify friendship.

Friendship provides the truest form of a liberal democracy: you can talk, debate or dispute anything under the sun with friends; a friend will never undermine you for your weaknesses or limitations; friends do have the right to quarrel bitterly between themselves too and yet remain friends; selfish motives never penetrate a friendship bond and if it does then it’s not friendship; and absolutely nothing of the kind of competitiveness or rivalry ever figures in a friendship. People often confuse between business relationships and friendships for such reasons; however, it is possible to chisel out friendship here too, if the ‘business’ part is dealt and dispensed with diligently.

The beauty of friendship is that it is not at all necessary to do any maintenance work for keeping it up which means you need not visit your friends or call your friends or write/message to your friends at regular intervals to show that you are still friends. You can be in the same city or thousands of miles apart and you can be out of touch for months, years or even decades, and yet you can reunite anytime anywhere basking in the undiminished glory of your friendship as if nothing had happened. Therefore, the observance of ‘Friendship Day’ once or more in a year is not at all necessary to rekindle your friendships or to justify it by sending inspiring messages or by shedding abundant tears of remembrance. But of course, such occasions make you ponder, to introspect and even to write something about it, call it an ode or notes as you may prefer.

Friendship is selfless, limitless; friendship is forever. Perhaps the best ever gift of God bestowed on humankind. Celebrate friendship every moment of your life, and be proud you have them by your side, always.

Blocking Friendship Breakers

As in any relationship, you and your friends will eventually face several setbacks in your friendship. But, don’t fret yet! Here are some ways of holding onto the friendship bond.

Friendship breaker: Backstabbing
Have you ever thought that your friendship was perfectly fine, but then you heard that a friend had been telling others negative things about you?

When you realize that a friend has been talking behind your back, the first thing to do is to ask if you have offended him/her in any way in the past. A word of caution is that you have to broach the subject without assuming the worst. Be tactful in your approach. During the discussion, let your friend know that you felt betrayed as a friend and that your trusted him or her has been damaged. If your friend asks for your forgiveness it should be made clear that trust must be regained, and that you are willing to start over.

Friendship breaker: Liking the same guy (Ouch!)
Two close friends choosing friendship over love for one person who they both have a common interest in only happens in movies. In real life, competing for the same person’s affections could easily break strong friendships.

In such situation, talking face to face is a must to divert your attention from brewing ill feelings towards each other. The two of you may decide to give up going after the same person once you both see that your friendship means more than just the affections of one person. There are plenty of people out there! But, of course the case would be different if your friend is already in a relationship with the person you like. It is best to steer clear from the situation because attempts to “steal” a friend’s partner will definitely destroy your friendship.

Friendship breaker: Making new friends
Life unfolds in moments, and when it does, it enables us to find new beginnings and companions as well. When this happens, you or a friend could ask the wonder if you’re being forgotten.

While the feeling of being left behind creates negative feelings, one must accept that it is normal for people to find new sets of friends especially when they enter new phases in their lives. To deal with the situation, your friend must know that you miss being with him or her. Staying in contact quells speculation that you’ve forgotten your treasured friendships.

Friendship breaker: Partaking in unhealthy competition
This type of friendship is best suited for a survival themed reality TV show where you outwit, outplay, and outlast each other. The relationship you have is a friendship, not a contest!

Don’t let your quest to surpass each other’s achievements hampered an otherwise healthy friendship. To deal with this, insecurities should be addressed first, and then accept that your talents and areas of excellence vary. Self-realization is a must.

Friendship breaker: Having different interests
Having different preferences could sometimes make a friendship difficult to handle. Even small decisions could bring about undesirable reactions from both parties. This could then be misunderstood as something that could cause the end of a friendship.

With diverse personalities, it is unavoidable for friends to disagree on their choices at times. When this situation occurs, settle the matter by making a compromise where everyone in the group or both parties can concur. However, disagreements can range from simple ones to those that are not negotiable as individual values.

Fighting friendship breakers could be tricky and at times difficult, so it is best to keep the friendship bond strong when times are good. Know how to block these breakers, and survive the tests before announcing, “friendship over!”

The Psychology of Friendship

On the three levels of friendship and understanding social personality patterns according to friendship styles.

With social networking the very crux of modern virtual living, it is simply not possible to avoid a psychology of friendship. But friendship may not be as simple as it seems as it has got several layers and complexities and friendship can be of many types. Yet friendship like love depends on the single factor of attraction and in this case, it is more of a mental and emotional rather than physical attraction. So when romantic love begins with physical attraction, friendship is more mental, emotional or psychological.

Among maybe thousands of students we meet in school or a few hundred we meet at the workplace, we finally become close and attain a level of friendship with very few or limited people. So like love, friendship also goes through our internal filter and as we choose our lovers unconsciously, even our friends are chosen unconsciously as we intuitively understand who could be our true friends.

Apart from the fact that there is this unconscious and intuitive filter which we exercise when we choose our friends or lovers, we also do get consciously attracted to people with whom we develop long lasting relationships and friendships. This attraction could be sexual but most likely we are attracted to the personality, to someone whose personal style, mannerisms and attitudes seem fascinating, intriguing or simply similar. There could be a narcissistic theory to this as we choose friends who may look, talk or think like we do and usually there is this mental rapport from the very beginning. Just as love could happen at first sight, friendship could also begin with ‘like’ at first sight.

Now this liking could have several gradations and in some cases you would simply like to remain as contact as in social networking. You simply follow a person on twitter or add someone as friend on face book because there is this basic or unconscious liking or at least a realization that there could be some gain from the virtual relationship. However this is the first superficial layer of friendship just as you would smile at or share a piece of news with a complete stranger in a train without ever keeping in touch or meeting again. This sort of friendship is the ‘random friendship’ variety.

Most of your social network friends who you do not know would be such random friends and strangers who you meet once and share a random conversation in a flight or a train or a bus would also be such random friends. This is the first layer or stage of friendship and in most cases we do not go beyond this stage. Most people we meet in our lives would be such random friends. This is a friendship of no expectations on both sides. This sort of friendship fulfils our basic social interaction and communication needs. Say for example, you give a speech at a conference and some people ask you questions and you answer them, to you these are your listeners but in this basic interaction there is a sense of rapport and almost an initial level of friendship. These, your listeners who choose to communicate with you are your random friends and they fulfil your interaction and communication needs.

The next stage of friendship is the distal friendship stage is which there is some unconscious or conscious expectation from the friendship and there may be a conscious sexual or emotional attraction. This sort of friendship is with people you regularly communicate with and you are also most likely interested in their activities. Distal friends are people you may or may not meet but are people with whom you want to maintain a long term and meaningful relationship and in most cases you have some knowledge of what goes on in their social or personal lives. This is the second level of friendship and second type of friendship and although there is expectation from this sort of relation, there may not be any clear idea as to what expectations there are. You simply know that you want to remain in touch with such friends and they are more than just contacts. These friends fulfil our power and recognition needs as with such friends we are assured that there are people in the world who care about us and are interested in our lives, dreams and achievements.

The third stage and type of friendship is of close proximal variety and this is the friendship between family members, close school friends, close workmates and friendship between spouses and lovers. In this sort of friendship there could be many expectations and there is sometimes an intuitive emotional connection. The initial reason for friendship could be physical attraction as in spouses or simply emotional connection as with family members or there could be a shared life and shared physical activity as in case of school or work friends. The close or proximal friends would know most details of your life and this sort of friendship entails expectations of sharing which may or may not be realistically possible. For example if sons and daughters leave home to work or study abroad, the parents who are still close friends would expect that their children would talk to them every week and this may not always be feasible. These close or proximal friends or stage of friendship fulfils our basic security, love and safety needs.

Thus from these stages or types of friendship you would know that the most essential types of friends are the close friends followed by distal friends and then random friends. Some individuals have more random friends than others and are thus of outgoing extroverted personality. These individuals are generally more curious about the world, have leadership are more open and communicative, they are also possibly very creative. However their primary needs are for social interaction and communication.

The second type of individual has more distal friends or social contacts with whom they are neither too close nor are they completely aloof. Such individuals have a wide range of social contacts with expectations but few random contacts and they are of mixed extroverted-introverted personality pattern. That means on a scale of 10, their extroversion would be 5 to 7. The primary need for such individuals is power or recognition. Of course this could have varied possibilities as with public or social figures and personalities such as writers, actors or politicians, there will naturally be more random contacts, yet as natural preference some public personalities will prefer social recognition as opposed to social communication. This preference is the basis of their social personality and would define the kind of friendship they choose to have.

The third type of individual is completely introverted and these are poets or artists or simply individuals who like to work on their own and lean heavily on their close network of friends and family members. Such individuals may have limited social contacts and very few random contacts and may not enjoy leadership positions. In some cases their introversion or aloofness would overshadow any leadership skills they do have. Such individuals could be very creative as well but this creativity may lead to complex ideas and highlight the subjective. In this case close friendship which fulfils love, safety and security needs are the primary needs of such individuals and such individuals are more emotion and security, or home and family oriented rather than communication or recognition oriented. From these three friendship patterns it is possible to delineate these three types of social personality based on social interactions.

Of course at the moment this is popular psychology and very little research in social psychology has studied levels of friendship, friendship in social networking or friendship styles that could relate to personality. Yet in the future psychology would not be able to avoid such research and with increased importance of social networking and virtual friendship, psychology will have to study how friendships are formed, why certain people become our friends and why different levels of friendship are attained with different individuals. Although there are theories on friendship and group formation in children, more studies into adult relationship formation and friendship would be necessary in psychology. Research studies will also have to be conducted to determine whether people with more random friends are ever curious creative types seeking communication and whether people with more distal friends and fewer random friends seek power and achievement and whether introverted individuals primarily lean on emotional security. With increased technological possibilities and an ever connected world, friendship remains a very fertile area of study in the social sciences.

Friendship Day – Friends Are For Ever!

I’m sure that many of you will have heard the song by the famous American singer Dionne Warwick – “…Keep smiling…keep shining…that’s what friends are for…” This is a song about friends and friendship, for it is truly a hallowed and revered institution since time immemorial.

Friendship reminds us of all the people that are near and dear in many ways. For many of us, it is difficult to describe feelings about friendship. This is because as humans, we are naturally accustomed to have friends since infancy and childhood. Many of us tend to think about friendship in a spiritual dimension and count of friendship as a divine gift. If we think deeply, most of us will realize that friendship is an imperative and fundamental cornerstone of humanity.

Of all the people that we value in our lifetime, friends are the closest and most adorable of all. Friends truly are those who value us deeply and understand us to the core. They spend their time thinking about us and helping us in thoughts, needs and deeds. For this very reason, it is often said that a friend in need is a friend in deed. They guide us in our decisions and provide us with strength and courage to face the world and its many tribulations.

Friends help us overcome obstacles in life with their constant companionship and camaraderie. Friends protect us from harm and provide us with warmth, affection, fondness, and constant company. Friends provide comfort and solace whenever we are away from our family. There are times when we feel broken and lonely. It is exactly at this time when we realize how important friends are to us. At times we feel closed to the world and in desperate need of support and understanding. Friends reach out to us and provide us with compassion and kindness.

In fact, it is mostly because of the kind-heartedness and thoughtfulness of friends that we regain our lost directions in life. It is through their very benevolence and goodwill that we feel secure protected from harm. In fact, there’s so much to friendship that there’s a special day set aside to it. Called Friendship Day, it is a special day celebrated to commemorate friendship and honour this age old institution.

In the United States, Friendship Day is celebrated on the first day of August of every year. This tradition is in vogue since 1935, when the U.S Congress dedicated this day to honour the special meaning of friendship. In 1997, the United Nations declared the famous cartoon character Winnie the Pooh as the official Ambassador of Friendship Day.

Since then, many countries internationally have started celebrating Friendship Day. This occasion is now celebrated in India too. Various countries celebrate Friendship Day in a variety of ways. For example, National Friendship Day is celebrated on the first Sunday of August, Women’s Friendship Day is celebrated on the third Sunday in September, International Friendship month is celebrated in February, while New Friends week is celebrated in the month of May. People generally express their feelings with each other about friendships day by exchanging gifts. Folks send gifts, cards and flowers to their friends in order to express how deeply they value each other’s friendship.

There are many popular ways in which we can express our sentiments and emotions on Friendship Day. Friendship bands are a very popular gift among friends. These come in attractive designs. Generally, these are appreciated by people of the younger generation. Flowers are yet another way of conveying our feelings on Friendship’s day. Attractive show pieces are also extremely fashionable as Friendship Day Gifts. The same can be said about decorative pieces also. Young boys and girls often choose a variety of chocolates to express their emotions for their friends. Soft toys are also another novel way of expressing our warmth and affection for our friends. Other notable items include books, music cassettes, CDs, and a variety of stationary items.

Friends appreciate and like friends the most. Material gifts are just a way of expressing the idea that as friends we need each other and appreciate their company for a life time.

The Benefits of Outsourcing Forging to Turkey

In recent years multiple Eastern European, East Asian and Latin American countries have diversified their economies by planting new forging facilities within their borders. Low labor costs and increasingly friendly international trade relations have resulted in fierce competition for the traditional forging centers in Western Europe and the United States. Despite the lower prices offered, emerging forging markets lack one vital asset, experience.

A problem for purchasing managers now exists when high-quality end-products are demanded or strict delivery schedules must be adhered to. Due to pricing gaps, the abundance of low-cost forging shops led to the closures of experienced forging shops at staggering rates.

The demand for high-quality forged products and the necessity to fulfill inflexible delivery schedules still exists. Firms not willing to sacrifice quality and logistical matters now have fewer options. Purchasing managers must now look for experienced forging shops with production costs comparable to those of emerging markets.

Turkey is a unique find in the forging arena. Its first private forging facility, Çelik Sanayi, was founded in 1959. Many other forging shops were founded thereafter, allowing Turkey to become a top subcontractor for forgings throughout modern history. The nation’s forging sector’s long history places it in a position that rivals Western Europe and the United States. Furthermore, the low cost of production allows its forging facilities to compete with the newly emerging markets. For this reason, multiple forging shops of all sizes thrive in Turkey.

Another unique quality of the Turkish forging industry is its workforce. Turkey’s youth is highly educated, creating a large supply of new Engineers to staff the local forging facilities. Additionally, since Turkish forging companies have existed for nearly 50 years, there are numerous individuals willing to contribute a lifetime of experience.

Along with Turkey’s goal to join the European Union comes the necessity for rapid investments in technological upgrades across the manufacturing sector. Turkish companies are currently experiencing a golden era of upgrades and refurbishments. This allows Turkey-based forging facilities to offer clients the best services through continuously reaching and exceeding the standards required by the most regulated companies in both the EU and the United States.

Turkey’s location also offers a strategic geopolitical advantage. Turkey is in the close proximity of Europe, Asia and the Middle East, allowing for reductions in shipping costs and times. Additionally, Turkey enjoys the benefits of multiple trade agreements between the EU and the United States. For example, the United States has ratified an agreement allowing for no taxes on imported steel products from Turkey. Turkish forging facilities offer the best of both worlds, low prices and superior quality.

The Art and Etiquette of Friendship

Friendship is an art form. As a sculptor shapes clay or a painter brings shapes and color into life on a canvas, so too can we create lasting and fulfilling friendships. We’ve heard it said that to have a friend, you need to be one first. I’m not talking about a Facebook friendship, I am talking about a deep, powerful and real friendship. Gloria Naylor, the novelist and educator, said, “Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence; a time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny and a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.”

Yes, there is an art and etiquette to friendship; real friendship. In general, people can be divided into two categories: givers and takers. Real friendship involves giving. It also involves knowing and understanding expectations and limitations on what a friendship involves. There are five simple rules regarding friendship which, if followed by both, will yield far more fulfillment for each friend than anything imaginable.

Rule Number one: Never presume upon a friendship. Our friend is not there to serve our every whim or fancy. He or she is not at our disposal. We should not place demands or expectations upon our friend which would cause them stress or rob them of their time.

Rule Number Two: Do not accept from a friend what you are not willing to give in return. True friendship involves the giving of both parties. Before you accept a friend’s time, energy and attention, think about what it is you are asking. Unless you are honestly willing to do the same, do not ask it of your friend.

Rule Number Three: Stay out of your friend’s closet. This is not his or her literal bedroom closet; this refers to their personal business and private affairs. In a true friendship, friends will usually tell one another everything. However, that is, and should be, the choice of each person. If your friend wants to tell you something personal, that is his or her business. The choice is that of our friend to do so. You should never to pry, question them or seem nosy.

Rule Number Four: Honor the confidentiality of your friendship. Whatever is said or told to one friend by another should, under no circumstances, be repeated or shared with anyone else. Just as we would expect our friend to honor our wishes of confidentiality, we should never betray that of theirs.

Rule Number Five. Accept your friend’s flaws as he/she accepts yours. No human being is perfect. We all have our flaws. It is easy to recognize the flaws in others without realizing our own. A lasting friendship is one in which both know when to stay mum and to give each other the time and space needed. We each have our good days and bad. Do not judge or criticize a friend and expect them to conform to our perfect idea of who they should be.

Good friends are hard to find. Lasting friendships are invaluable. It is said that if you can count your real friends on one hand, you are indeed very lucky. The word friendship is tossed around quite loosely. Each friendship is unique and has its own characteristics. We laugh with some; we cry with others. We discuss ideas with some and we engage in hobbies yet with others. The mutual respect of a friendship will lead to its strength and endurance.